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JuNi MooN - 2003-07-31 15:08:47
Okay Adrianna, I'm gonna share some stuff with you and hopefully spare you the years of pain and rejection I have been through with men. I am 43 years old, so I know which I speak of. Being easy to get along with is apparently not an attribute men appreciate or respect. If you jump through hoops and act needy, (as I did for many years)they avoid you like the plague. Have an ego as big as Texas, look at your own self worth and see them as what they are - not good enough for you, not the other way round. You are responsible for how you allow people to treat you. If you do not treat yourself with respect and high esteem, neither will they. Men crave challenge. It's ridiculously funny, as soon as I posted to my profile that I was now celibate (until I meet the right man for me) and not interested in meeting anyone online. My IM lit up! I have also found that the minute they do get sex from you, they automatically begin to decline in interest from there, the challenge is gone. With their fear of committment and being "trapped", men are the biggest game players going. As you get older, hopefully you, as a lot of us have, upon close examination, see that we have spent most of our youth slumming with guys not worth our time, were more beautiful than we'd ever realized, and have qualities far beyond our dress size and sexual technique. Along with regrets of all the time we wasted on boyfriends when we could have been doing something more productive and lasting with out lives. I have been single a long time now, because I refuse to let men manipulate and take advantage of me. I have learned that I can do magnificent things on my own and that being alone is not a prison sentence. I also meet men now that are far more my caliber and worth knowing, and they treat me with a deference and respect I have never gotten before. My advice to you, dear Adrianna, focus on your craft, develop yourself and leave the losers to their own devices. Imagine the men you will meet when you do accomplish your goals. Granted there are still highly educated, wealthy losers, but still I think your opportunity to meet a man worthy of you and all you have been through will be heightened. And you will see, when you stop taking crap from people and start caring for yourself instead of punishing and beating yourself up, you will be treated much differently. There is a scripture in the bible about 'not throwing your pearls to swine'. You have many pearls, girl, and the advantage of youth. Do not waste it. All of my best wishes, JuNi MooN
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lex - 2003-07-31 15:24:37
amen to that, sistah!
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